Talking about domestic abuse
Women's Aid is the national domestic violence charity in England and they launched a national domestic violence awareness campaign involving celebrities with fake bruises. If those bruises are fake to give you a idea about domestic violence in the world, not only in England.
What does it take to get people talking about domestic abuse?
Woman from this campaign prints are: ANNA FRIEL, FERN BRITTON, JEMMA KIDD, FAY RIPLEY, ANNE-MARIE DUFF, MIQUITA OLIVER, FIONA BRUCE, HONOR BLACKMAN, KATE THORNTON. Advertising agency: Grey London
Take a good look at those ad prints and admit domestic abuse is a problem and talk to someone about it.
Creatives: Geoff Smith (Executive Creative Director), Simon Butler (Executive Creative Director), Nicola Hawes (Creative), Andy Forest (Creative) / Head of Planning: John Lowery / Account Directors: Lisa Buckley / Account Team: Jess Palmer / Planning Team: Emma Batho / Project Manager: Emma Garcia / Art Buyer: Emma Garcia / Head of Typography: Mark Cakebread / Photographer: Rankin / Retouching agency: Rankin
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I think that its quite a shame that people have nothing to say when it comes to women and child abuse come on guys let's speak out and break the silence.
I had a working lifetime of dealing with gutless bullies, some of whom beat up their wives and `girlfriends` and, in other ways, tortured them. There's something seriously wrong with these dysfunctional men in our society. Many of those I encountered had a common denominator within their warped characters; They seemed to think that they were the greatest thing that ever happened to the poor woman and they all expressed disbelief when she eventually decided to reject them and their violence. Most seemed hell bent on ensuring that she would not be happy with any other man but them. I still haven't figured it out.
sometimes a man has an inability to express his emotions verbally, so he expresses them with punches to the eye and to the gut.
Sorry but they asked for it.
you are a waste of air. just die and do the world a favour.
A Man's inability to express himself other than through physical or emotional abuse is clearly a major disfunction. What attracts women to these men? Don't forget these men have mothers. Surely they are partly responsible.
What about the men and children battered by vicious, violent, abusive women. Women are not angels, very few are. no-one deserves to be hit, the women start the trouble 99% of the time then when the men defend themselves the women go screaming to the police. If this continues the real women victims will be ignored- remember the boy who cried wolf!
Anonymous.. who ever you are, I really hope that comment was posted to try and spark some kind of debate about this as the comment "The women start the trouble 99% of the time" is just complete rubbish, however if you do believe that, then you are living in some fantasy world .. and exactly how many "vicious, violent, abusive women" have you encountered in your life..
@ Matt. I agree with you. That Anonymous is just plain stupid from MANCHESTER, UK. (ip location told me that)
that is horrible, someone do some thing NOW!
I think that there is definitely wrong with abusive people male or female. I think that considering men out weigh and out muscle women makes them more damaging. Men and women have to learn to walk away, deescalate and not fuel the fire. Unfortunately there is also a psychological side to abuse that isn't being addressed. Fear has a lot to do with it. I think too that male or female "victims" need to begin to establish a foundation for their life. Something not dependent on the person who calls them stupid and try's to control them with fear. They have to begin to believe in their worth as a person. It is OK to say "I am not stupid." It is ok to take a step towards independence. I just hope that people in abusive relationships reach-out! They have more power then they think.
the last anonymous who said " that is horrible someone do something now" why do you stop ordering others around and do something about it yourself. this is a major issue and just sitting here and saying someone do something isnt going to change a thing. If you really believe it like you claim to why dont YOU be that someone and do something yourself.
Women often do start trouble, egging the men on assuming they won't be hit... and if they do get hit the police are there to save them. That's why I keep mine locked up in the basement, chained to the laundry machine.
I don't care.
Why use fake bruises? Aren't there enough real ones? If the topic is domestic abuse, where are the faked photos of men who have been abused by their wives? Or poisoned? Or emasculated?
disgracful.. you know who im talkin to
Fantastic!...its about time people saw the reality of domestic abuse. Too many women are living in fear and dying as a result of domestic abuse. People have no understanding of the reasons behind why a woman stays in an abusive relationship which leads to a lack of support in the general community. Emotional abuse is just as horrific and its unfortunate that the marks and scars borne from this cannot be shown in pictures. Anonymous who thinks women start trouble 99% of the time and men are only defending themselves sounds like a real "charmer" in the making!!!
hi my names bex im 16 now and iv seen my mum get hit and stuff
and i was wondering could you help me in anyway wb
You guys need to grow up and stop thinking its ok for guys to beat women cause its not and you guys deserve it half the time with you guys goin out and cheatin on your wifes and what ever you do you guys think its ok to beat on women well i hope you all go to hell for those that think its the right thing to do you don't beat on women or your kids you should have more respect than that i use to get beat by my dad and i know how it feels you dont now how it feels until it happens to you people wonder why women don't leave when it happening to them its because they cant go anywhere cause there afraid that they will get beat even worse than before for going somewhere or leavin so the guys that think its funny or think women deserve it or think its the right thing to do well then your wrong and need to grow up and start making better decisions...........
I am a man and I feel ashamed for my gender when I read and hear of the things men have done to women, now, in this country, other countries and in the past. Women are all-powerful and men are fwightened ickle mousies. Football is gay and so is playing toy soldiers, war is menstruation envy.
Men prance about desperately trying to increase their status, talk and don't listen, argue, fight, start wars, pollute the world and enslave everybody with our accursed power based agendas of control. There are endless names for them - capitalism, communism, fascism, churchianity, every aspect of creation and life he has attempted to dominate and control.
He fears your sacred womanly power because he cannot control it. May the Goddess protect and bless you all, all you wonderful, wise and beautiful sisters....special thanks to the women of Greenham Common, I have not forgotten you and in the end, the cruise missiles left and the base was closed.
Love and bright blessings on you all, may you learn a martial art so that next time te tries to rough you up you kick his arse back to the stone age where he belongs!
Actually, there are vicious, violent, and abusive women. Granted, not many, but there are some. My alcoholic mother abuses my father and me at least weekly. But who would suspect a 90 pound woman of hurting a 250 pound man?
Its not only physical abuse,mental abuse also,the two go together.That's why women don't say anythingIts a form of brainwashing,you're told over and over that,its your fault,you deserved it,eventually you believe it!
Believe me i KNOW,i suffered for over 20 years,i was lucky i survived, a lot of women don't.
I had the pleasure of seeing my so called"loving husband drop dead in front of me!!!!
My name is Chris.
I SURVIVED 8 years of hell and every form of abuse from my ex. He was bigger and stronger than I was.
He averaged a liter of hard liquor a day, would beat the crap out of me and after I passed out from concussions or broken bones he would rape me.
Ladies AND guys: you're not alone. it took me 8 years to realize this and also realize that if I didn't get out he would eventually kill me.
While in the process of rescuing myself (after finding a few heterosexual cage fighters to "have my back") he tried to kill me with an oak 2x4. I called the police as he came at me and had him arrested for a domestic dispute.
After I informed his mother and he got out of jail I had my new found friends with me when he came home. I made him sign over the house, car and posessions. I took his keys from him, changed the locks and had him sign a document stating that he agreed to and understood that by signing everything over I would not press charges and that he also would never step foot on the property again or I would press charges.
I survived and took him for all he had. There was a lot more mentioned in the "contract", but this is the gist of it.
Victims, no matter what your gender, build or physical strength... You can do it. The hardest part is telling everyone around you that you need help and what your plan of escaping your situation is. I only told one person, gave him all of mine and my ex's friends' contact info and asked him to get the word out. He did... and I am alive because of it and him to this day. It was hard... It was HARD! But I did it. With help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all... and next time you go to the doctor and you're asked if anyone is hurting you have the courage I didn't and say yes.
It took me quite a while of getting over the shame I felt from everyone knowing me as "the guy who's boyfriend beat him up" and "the guy who can't defend himself" but now I am strong enough inside and PROUD enough of myself for surviving and getting out that I posted my full name and contact info here.
DON'T be afraid to ask for help!
Chris Brunette
christopher.brunett@gmail.com
Facebook: Christopher Brunette
I'm not sure why you all are arguing about who can be the victim. I think the important thing to learn from this site is that all domestic abuse is happening. Also its saying that there IS help. Its not important who it is getting hurt, just that they get the help they need.
Abuse happens everywhere. It's not just the men that abuse. the woman do it too. The woman may egg the man on but the man should know when to walk away. Remember the saying
words won't hurt you. They will if you let them. I was with a man for 3 yrs that would be super charming one minute, then
turn into a monster when he got around his family or started drinking. All it took for him to go off was for me to just say hi to another man. I took the punches, the name calling, the degradation, and everything. I finally had my opportunity to get out and I did. I pretended everything was fine. Went to sleep and got up the next morning made breakfast, grabbed my bags and belongings, loaded up my animals and left. I left a note saying "thanks for the three yeras of hell. you'll never hurt me again. By the way we lived aboud 10 miles from nowhere and had no phone. So when he would hit me he'd steal my vehicle. I was too afraid to walk anywhere because I was afraid he was waiting for me somewhere. Needless to say that was 9 yrs ago. Im much better, still single and now I know how to put my foot down before I get into that position. If a man or a woman want to abuse or hit someone they don't need a reason. A protective order doesn't always work. You just need to get out at the first chance you get and never look back. Once an abuser always an abuser. I don't care of they have been "rehabilitated." There is always something that will set them off again. There may that one exception to the rule that does change, but don't let them fool you with the I'm sorry, I love you routine. You will never be able to trust that guy/woman ever again. so get out while you can and seek help. But Abuse is everywhere, and anyone is capable of being abused.
OOPS I meant to say that anyone is capable of abusing someone whether it's a man or woman.
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